Understanding what constitutes “consent” [to sexual activity] shouldn’t be hard; but it is for many. The idea that someone (more often than not, a woman) has consented to sex when in fact they haven’t, or when they change their mind or in some way challenge another’s (more often than not, a man) assumption that consent has occurred, there can be misunderstanding. The refuser might not be heard, is disregarded or not believed. For instance, imagine that someone says “no” to sex and they are challenge with a comment like, “but you said yes before” or “the way you are dressed tells me you want it”……..then imagine these strikingly similar conversations occurring outside of a sexual context. Suddenly the person who didn’t ask or took advantage is clearly off base. No confusion here.
The following illustration from Everydayfeminism.com does an excellent job portraying what consent really means.
The child who is ‘left behind’ most is the one who leaves school without transition readiness.
Dr. James Stanfield, Ed.D.